My husband and I had a wonderful time doing just that in Maui for 12 days! I'm so thankful I've been blessed with such a caring, loving husband, one who knows me well after almost 23 years of marriage and can tell just by looking at my face what's going on.
Raising a large family while going through treatment for lyme disease has not been easy on myself or my husband. He works 2 jobs, one as a Fire Captain which involves shift work and can be exhausting in itself and then on his off days he works as a contractor (doing physically hard work). So while he was thinking of me when he scheduled the trip..in reality he needed it too. It's so important in our busy, hectic lives, to take time for each other, to slow down and enjoy the company of one another. And while we make great efforts to do that by having date nights, it's really needed more often. We have adult children and little children living in our home, which makes it much more challenging at this stage in our lives. When they were all little kids we would just simply put them all to bed early (8:00) and then have our time to catch up on the days events, talk, etc., to slow down and be together. But what we are finding now that our oldest is 21 and our youngest is 3, is that bedtimes are spread out. The younger 4 go to bed by 8:00 on school nights, and then we spend the next hour between 8:00-9:00 trying to catch up with our middle child (our 15 year old daughter), then once she is off to bed between 9:00-9:30 we like to spend time with our oldest 2 sons (19 and 21). It's really the only time we see them most days and it's so important to us to talk to each of them and to be there for them, our children are so important to us and we are very involved in there lives. I want them to know we are there for them, but I'm sure you can imagine how that can also be hard for us to have time to talk and why we try to get away alone for a few days a couple of times a year. I encourage every couple to make time for themselves, because it doesn't help your kids if you and your husband aren't in unity. We are so blessed with great friends who are willing to take our kids at any time and who know the importance of getting away and resting. And what better place to rest than "paradise"?
When we go to Maui, it's a time of rest for us, a time to slow the pace down, and not be in a hurry. We really don't DO much, we get around slowly in the morning, and nearly every day is spent at the beach and/or pool. We get some snorkeling and hiking in there too, but our goal is to slow down and enjoy each other. This was our first trip to Maui without all of our kids, and while we really enjoyed ourselves and it was very restful, it made us think of them often! It ended up being just the medicine I and my husband needed (which he foresaw), lot's of vitamin D, rest and fresh air! The first week I slept a lot, I took naps on the beach and afternoons in the condo, but Maui proved to be good for my health and by the second week I was only needing about a 1/2 hour nap! I am so thankful to my wonderful husband for knowing I needed a break from our hectic lives and a chance to catch up on some rest. We also enjoyed having time to do things we don't normally have time to do like read. We read some good books while sitting on the beach listening to the waves, I grew up right on the ocean and the sound of the waves is so calming and means home to me). While there my husband finished Till We Have Faces by C.S. Lewis and started the book Whatever Happened to Penny Candy ( a book our kids read for school), I read The Hammer of God and we both listened to dozens of sermon podcasts by a variety of theologians and pastors.
Now that we are home and back in the thick of it, I've made myself a promise not to get so worn out and to stop pushing through so much. To slow down and take time to rest (which I'm failing miserably at so far), and to slow down and enjoy my youngest more. He is such an easy little guy, and I was so exhausted much of the time that I must confess, I had fallen into him watching television nearly every morning the kids were at school (4 days a week). I was able to get a lot done that way, but it's not what I want for him. So this week since I've been back I've turned off the TV and involved him in what I'm doing. The other day it was time to start another batch of Kombucha so I let him "wash" the jars while I worked on other parts of the process. He LOVED it and felt helpful, children really want to be a part of what we are doing and I'm thankful the Lord convicted me of my selfishness (sin) so I could be forgiven and start a new with him, we are really enjoying our mornings together now.
As if our lives weren't busy enough, or complicated enough, I am having to totally change my diet! The day before we left I got the results back from Immuno Lab for food sensitivity testing that my ND had ordered. Many of the foods I was consuming daily I do not tolerate, I was having sharp stomach pains which I kept attributing to the 6 months of heavy antibiotics I had completed for chronic Lyme Disease, but they weren't! Turns out I am most allergic to almonds! Which is something I was eating probably daily, because we already knew I reacted to coconut, once I cut that out (on our trip) I stopped having the sharp stomach pains, yay! On our trip I just tried to cut out the almonds and cashews and kept other foods at moderate amounts, except eggs ( I ate those daily). Now that we are back home I'm working on cutting out all of the foods we discovered I don't tolerate. I think for me the hardest is no mexican food and no Kombucha, this girl LOVES her mexican food and her Kombucha!! That and having to make separate meals for myself, I cook extra stuff for myself to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinners. At my Doctors suggestion I'm using Duck eggs for myself and chicken eggs for the rest of the family, the duck eggs are harder to come by and more expensive so it's not feasible at this point to feed us all this way. I really thought avoiding most of the food items would be pretty easy, but I'm finding it a bit harder than I anticipated. I rarely drink coffee so I didn't think It would be a problem, but now that I know I can't have it guess what I want? Yep, coffee!
I'll try not to bore you all with to many details, I really want to do some posts on the subject and have been trying to organize my thoughts and figure out where to start. I'm thinking that I might start with what the differences are between food allergies and food sensitivities or intolerances and then move on from there. For now I'm embracing this new challenge and thankfully I have many people who need me and no time to waste wallowing in self pity or thinking about it. One example: last night was a crazy night, so the kids had taco salad and I had my chicken breast with Herbs de Provence, sea salt and pepper on it with carrot sticks and honeydew melon, I had a fleeting moment of pity (like I said this girl LOVES mexican), but it was a good reminder of what we frequently tell our kids" We eat to live we don't live to eat" and that food is fuel. As I get the hang of things and the list of what I can't have becomes ingrained in my memory instead of having to check it everytime it will get easier I'm sure. What I'm most thankful for above everything is that I have a savior who loves me and promises to never leave nor forsake me, a God who I can cry out to and even vent my anger/frustration with what life has served up, my hope, faith and trust are in the Lord "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28